Writing Entry 7:The Vagina Monologues

This Valentine’s Day I was fortunate enough to have good company, not to mention good entertainment. The Vagina Monologues, created by Eve Ensler is a risky assortment and collection of interviews about women and their vagina’s. Each monologue began similarly with hating their vagina and the unknown about “down there” but eventually the women came around and were able to express their new found “love” for their vagina — which is far more important and represents a larger meaning behind it than they ever pictured before.

There were some amusing monologues, but above all the most that stood out were the ones about violence. Rape and other awful things were mentioned and in the end we were asked to join the 1 billion standing against women violence. I felt it to be very important and knowing people who have been sexually abused, it made it a little easier to support what they were trying to get accross.

Living in a conservative town has it’s ups and downs. Putting on risky events such as The Vagina Monologues really gets people going. It’s just another way to censor what people don’t want to talk about but what is ever so obvious and important. I was once told that what your children don’t learn from you, they learn from the school bus. I think that is true in many ways. I first heard the “F” word on the bus from a kindergartner when I was in fifth grade. I was more horrified that I didn’t know the word than the fact that the little boy had said it. I’m no saying go around and blab a bunch of swear words to your kids, but I’m also not saying to hide them from the rest of the world.

The Vagina Monologues taught me to not be afraid of those words. They were created for a reason and they are there for us to teach.

I think everyone in their adult life should watch the Vagina Monologues. It really opens you up to a whole new comfort zone.


Writing Entry 6: Friendship

I wish there was a way of keeping track of all of our friends and calling upon them whenever we need that particular person/personality. I have met many people in my 19 years. There have been many people I want to put in my pocket and save for later — lots of people I want to shove into a dark place and never see again — and others I would just like to see almost every minute of everyday, almost. 🙂

“I believe that we don’t have to change friends as long as we understand that friends change.”

This saying is ever close to my heart, because the truth in it expresses how I feel about friendships. We change. It’s our nature and if you’d like to argue about our human nature than take it up with Socrates because I’ve done enough explaining to last me a lifetime.;)

I’ve had a hard time accepting the changes within friendships I’ve developed throughout the past years. I wanted things to stay the same or stay familiar. I can’t expect that when I’ve moved away for college and am not around as often. At first I was hesitant to accept the change — but now I’ve come to the conclusion “friends change” I’m excited for what is to come!

I love my old friends and I plan to embrace all the new! It’s been interesting and hard to overcome, but I’m adjusting quite nicely.


Writing Entry 5: True Wealth is Health

According to the World Health Organization (WHO) their definition for health is: “A complete physical, mental, and social well being and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity.”

Just because we don’t have the flu or cancer doesn’t automatically make us healthy people. It takes balance of physical, mental, and social well-being to be considered truly healthy.

It’s important to be aware of what is best and specific for our own bodies. In my leadership class we came up with a first year college students situation to adjusting to th new freedom of living away from home. Each scenario was different; but in groups we came up with helpful steps to take and provide if a resident is dealing with stress or just try g to maintain a healthy balance of sleep, studying, and exercise.

The health wellness wheel consists of:
• Emotional
• Spiritual
• Intellectual
• Physical
• Enviromental
• Financial
• Social

The most important thing to remember and consider is that No single healthy lifestyle is perfect for everyone. It’s important o take account the things you prefer over other forms of excercise to keep a motivation. Something is better than nothing. Choosing to take the stairs instead of the elevator or eating an apple instead of a brownie are choices that are small and yet have a big impact on maintaining a healthy lifestyle.

We could be the richest person alive, but none of that matters if we are constantly stressed, physically unfit, and socialabally inadequate.

I was open to some helpful hints to get on the right track for myself. It’s good to be aware and gain a desire to change my habits!

Writing Entry 4: The Mountains We Climb

Writing Entry 4: The Mountains We Climb

“They” say high school is to prepare us for college. All I know is there is nothing that could ever prepare us for our future. We could plan ahead, take classes from professionals, or prepare for the worse –> but in the end, it’s never truly enough. What’s college without mountains to climb? Even more so, what’s life without mountains to climb? My picture above is a stunning picture of what lies all around me. Mountains are everywhere and they are inevitable. If you live in Kansas and are saying “We don’t have them.” You’re wrong. I’m not talking about mountains.

I’ve had a few “mountains” to climb to say the least. I remember telling myself almost seven years ago that I was always going to be known as the girl who lost her mother to leukemia at the age of 12. I’d like to believe I’m more than that now. I won’t lie. I was devastated by my mother’s death, but I didn’t refuse to climb over that mountain –> even though I believed it was impossible at the time. I’ve taken small steps and I’ve made plenty of stops along the way. I’ve even slid back down, but I somehow made it back up.

I miss my mother everyday. I think of all the mountains I would climb just to have her in my life again, but I’ve come to realize that no amount of mountains in the world to climb would ever make the possible. She’s gone. And I have to tell myself that every once and a while and let reality sink back in.

I’m proud of the mountains I’ve climb and all the many to come. It’s worth every breath.

Writing Entry 3: Personal Growth

Tonight’s session of my Resident Life Leadership class was inspired by the topic of Personal Growth. Personally, out of the four topics we will be discussing within the four weeks, Personal Growth, is by far the most difficult one to accomplish. It’s a longer process to complete. It’s about me. In order to get to where we are going, we need to know where we are. It was very insightful and we were challenged to recognize bits and pieces of us that we don’t usually work with as often as we should. It was incredible to be tested on my personality and leadership skills as a person. We are attempting to become Resident Advisers; therefore, it’s important we know ourselves and the journey we want to partake in so we are confident in guiding other residents on the same individual path to discovery.

I didn’t really connect discovery to blogging/journals, but I’m focusing on the positive parts that it brings out in myself. I am able to express myself far better than I ever could verbally. Words are scattered in my brain and the pressure of someone listening to your every sound is intimidating.

We were given the pyramid of Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs which includes:

Physiological needs: air, water, shelter, and sleep
Safety and security
Love and belonging-ness
Self esteem
Self actualization

This is something that seems so basic and simple, but is an honest interpretation of how we personally analyze and partake in the growth we desire from ourselves. In order to have self actualization we must encounter self esteem first. We cannot help someone unless we can help ourselves. We would only be considered hypocrites if we put aside our esteem but were able to uplift another. They lose trust and confidence in us with the omission of allowing them to see our faults.

Tonight we were fortunate enough to examine our positive attributes. We were able to realize that happiness is now. Happiness isn’t something we receive when we become successful; we are successful when we are happy.

This video of Shawn Achor talking about the connection happiness has to the brain is very empowering. (earlier post)

Writing Entry 2: Brown Nosers

I realize that I am only in my second semester of college, but I can’t help but notice the very competitive students I have in my classes. It has been in the back of my mind since the beginning of January, and I thought I would rant about how I feel…

Brown nose (v) : One who brownnoses (flatters or humors somebody in an obsequious manner for personal gain); one who sucks up; a bootlicker, ass-kisser, sycophant.

(NOTICE: There is a variety of wording up above that describes the characteristics of a brown noser. If only brown nosers followed the structure of a dictionary, maybe them majority of us could understand them. Just a thought.)

These people do exist and the unfortunate part of it all is that they exist very loudly. If for some reason you forget their existence they will regain their presence by raising their hand 100 times during a 50 minute class period. I realize that people have confidence; there is nothing wrong with that. There is a fine line; however, that distinguishes an intelligent and well thought out person as opposed to an attention “Whore” who likes to brown nose obsessively.

The most frustrating part of it all is that most brown nosers speak at a highly annoying level of vocabulary. For the most part I can’t help but block their words out. It’s not that I don’t want to listen to yet another opinion/fact about the current topic in class discussion; it’s just that I suddenly get lost. Maybe I just need to extend my vocabulary, but I’m capable of using my context clues skills and I don’t feel like I need to read the entire dictionary before I attend class. I understand if someone has something to add to the discussion with intelligent wording and an extensive thought behind it, but if it’s continuously and constantly — there is a problem. A very obvious problem at large. The professor, for the most part responds to the student — and they are on the same page. That’s the point — THEY are on the same page.

Is it just me or am I the only one lost? If that is the case and I’m just dumb as a door nail, then please speak up and rattle my brain to wake up! I find; however, that I am NOT the only one because I have spoken to a variety of people on this subject and they agree. The blank stares around the room are also indicators that I’m not the only one. I have opinions and knowledge about many things, but those darn brown nosers usually get it out first. They are in neon lights saying “pick me” and I’m not one to steal the spotlight. I also don’t like to be redundant unless I am speaking to a five year old — so repeating something they have just said is beyond me. I’d rather just nod my head and agree. What’s the point of adding a hand to the mix when the brown nose is always picked?

You might be thinking — start a revolution and change the ways of the classroom. I could. But what would that get me? The label of another brown noser? Curse the labels. Thank you to all the brown nosers who provide such a thick line between the weak and the strong. Thank you for turning such a simple thing as raising your hand to answer questions or makes comments such a competitive battlefield. Oh yeah — and thank you professors for continuing to call upon that particular individual who just made a comment four minutes ago. It really helps our self esteem.

I realize not everyone thinks like me. These are my thoughts. Thank you.