Gay marriage isn’t about you.

I’m straight. I’m a woman. And I’m young. And never in my entire life have I ever had to suppress my dreams of marrying the love of my life and walking down the aisle with the perfect amount of sunshine and smiles.

It’s heartbreaking to see friends and family silently wishing that their right to marriage wasn’t such a battlefield.

And it’s even more discouraging to see others actively trying to shut down any amount of happiness for others simply because it doesn’t fit a specific mold.

But I’ve always believed that molds should be broken. They should be broken into a million little pieces, as if they never existed at all. Especially whenever someone brings up the mold of marriage. The sanctity of marriage. A man and a woman. Blah blah blah.

It’s total crap. It’s not a liberal or democratic thing to support marriage equality for all. It’s a human thing.

And frankly I’m getting sick and tired of hearing about it. It’s everywhere I look. It’s blowing up my FaceBook feed. It appears in the most unexpected places and unexpected ways.

I believe that a man and a woman who love one another should be able to say their vows and legally  wed.

I also believe that a man and a man, or a woman and a woman should be able to say their vows and legally wed.

I’ve heard all the excuses as to why gays should not be ALLOWED to be married.

“It’s a sin.”
“It’s against God.”
“It ruins the sanctity of marriage.”
“It’s wrong.”
“Marriage is to reproduce.”
“Gays will burn in hell.”
“Being gay is wrong.”
“God said Adam and Eve NOT Adam and Steve.”

And you know what? I could argue against every single one of those and any other stupid excuses that are pulled out of the stupid hat when people say them.

I accidentally made the mistake of reading a Facebook post about rufusing “special” rights for gays. It said something along the lines of …”think about the children…”

I almost wanted to laugh and cry at the same time. Think about the children? THINK ABOUT THE CHILDREN? Really?

I’m thinking alright.

I’m thinking long and hard. And I’m thinking about helping raise the next generation of loving, kind, accepting people. The kind of generation who won’t stare at two men kissing in disgust. The kind of generation that will never know the deep rooted hatred of homophobia.

So yes. I believe molds should be broken. And this is one I will strongly stand for.

And for those who have an issue with gay marriage or gay rights…

Gay marriage isn’t about you. It’s about them. It really should be a personal thing. Between the two people who want to unite and share their lives together. So stay out of it. And mind your own freaking business.



Thanks for hearing me out.